每天你會(huì)問自己哪些問題？
Believe it or not, the kind of questions you ask determine the kind oflife you lead. That’s because your questions trigger its own set of answers,which lead to certain emotions, which then lead to certain actions (orinactions), followed by results. If you ask yourself limiting questions, you’llget limited results. If you ask yourself mind-opening, forwarding questions,you’ll gain a lot more out of them.信不信由你，你問的問題決定了你要過的生活。因?yàn)槟愕膯栴}會(huì)觸發(fā)一系列答案，會(huì)引起某些情緒的變化，進(jìn)而引發(fā)一些行為（或不作為），產(chǎn)生結(jié)果。如果你問自己的是限制性的問題，你會(huì)只得到限制性的結(jié)果。如果你問自己一些開放性的問題，你會(huì)從中受益匪淺。
Some people like to ask questions like “Why am I so unlucky?”, “What if Ihad done this earlier?” and “Why am I always in such a situation?”. Becausethese questions are backward looking, the answers you get with them arenaturally disempowering. On the other hand, questions like “What can I learnfrom this experience?”, “What can I do differently move forward?” and “What amI grateful for?” are empowering. They provoke you and get you thinking, puttingyou on the path to a better life.
有人可能會(huì)問自己：“我為什么這么倒霉？”，“如果我早這樣做會(huì)怎么樣？”，“我為什么總是這樣？”因?yàn)檫@些問題是往后看，你的答案自然讓你缺少自信。另一方面，像“我從這次經(jīng)歷中可以學(xué)到什么？”，“我怎么做才能進(jìn)步?”, “我應(yīng)該感謝什么？”這些問題會(huì)讓人控制自己的生活。它們引人深思，并引你通向更好的生活。
If you’re someone who normally doesn’t self-reflect, you might be stumpedby questions. However, this is perfectly normal. I remember when I was a smallprimary school student, the teacher asked us how we would describe ourselves.The question got me stumped, because I had never thought much about it. It tookme some time to find some meaningful adjectives to describe myself, but eventhen they didn’t seem right. That was one of the starting points of myself-exploration journey. Somewhere along the way, I became a big fan ofintrospection, enjoying the process of self-reflecting and thinking overquestions.
如果你平時(shí)不反省自己，你很可能不知如何回答這些問題。這很正常。我還記得當(dāng)我是小學(xué)生時(shí)，老師讓我們描述一下自己。這把我難住了，因?yàn)槲覐膩硪矝]有想過這個(gè)問題。當(dāng)時(shí)我花了一些時(shí)間查找有意義的形容詞來描述自己，但它們用得并不恰當(dāng)。那是我自我探索旅程的起點(diǎn)。在旅途中，我喜歡上了自省，享受反省和思考問題的過程。
Today, I believe questions are a key to self-awareness and personalgrowth. In my 1-1 coaching sessions, I enable my clients to discover theanswers to their goals/questions by asking them the right questions. It’d beeasy if I just tell my coachees what they “should” do and what they “shouldnot” do. But that’s not the point. It’s about empowering my clients to discoverthemselves through asking the right guiding questions, catered to theirsituation and their profiles. The right questions will help them untangle theblockages in them and connect with their inner self.
現(xiàn)在我相信問問題是自我意識(shí)和個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)的關(guān)鍵。在一對(duì)一的培訓(xùn)環(huán)節(jié)里，我通過詢問一些恰當(dāng)?shù)膯栴}來讓客戶自己發(fā)現(xiàn)他們的目標(biāo)或問題的答案。如果我直接告訴我的學(xué)員什么該做什么不該做，那會(huì)簡(jiǎn)單得多。但答案不是問題的關(guān)鍵，關(guān)鍵是通過詢問適合客戶情況的問題來引導(dǎo)他們自己發(fā)現(xiàn)答案。恰當(dāng)?shù)膯栴}會(huì)幫助他們理清思緒并發(fā)現(xiàn)內(nèi)心的自我。
It doesn’t matter if you get stumped in the beginning, or if you don’tknow the answers to the questions at first. Our minds are boundless. Justbecause you don’t get an answer immediately, it doesn’t mean there are noanswers. The answers are there – it’s just that your mind is too foggy sinceyou’ve not consulted it before. The more you ask, the clearer your mind willbe, and the more ready you’ll be to receive the answers.
如果剛開始你就被難住了或你不知道如何回答這些問題，這沒有關(guān)系。我們的大腦潛能無限。你不能立刻回答并不代表著不會(huì)回答。答案就在那里—-只是因?yàn)橹澳銢]有考慮過所以頭腦不清。你問的越多，你的頭腦就越清楚，你就越容易找到答案。
Below is a full set of self-reflection questions I’ve come up to help youlive your best life. While the article says 101 questions, there are more thanthat, and I’ll continue to add on over time as I come across new ones. Some ofthese questions are questions which I ask my 1-1 clients, to uncover the realthem. The questions will help you focus on what’s important to you, and whatyou want. They are not meant to be answered all at one shot – they are to bethought over again and again, as part of your growth journey. Pick out a fewquestions to reflect on today, then bookmark and check back a week later tothink over the others. Check back regularly to reflect on the questions.
下面是一全套自我反省的問題，希望這套問題能幫你過最好的生活。雖然標(biāo)題寫的是101道問題，但遠(yuǎn)不止這些，如果我想到新的，會(huì)不斷地添加進(jìn)來。其中有一些問題是我在一對(duì)一培訓(xùn)中詢問客戶的問題，幫助他們發(fā)現(xiàn)真實(shí)的自我。這些問題會(huì)讓你把注意力集中在重要的和想要的上面。這并不是說你得一下子就把它們回答出來。這些問題可以反復(fù)思考并可以作為成長(zhǎng)旅途中的一部分。今天你就可以從中挑選幾個(gè)問題進(jìn)行反省并做出標(biāo)記，一周后再看一下并再思考幾個(gè)。定期考慮這些問題。
Remember, there is no 1 final answer. It’s a continuous discovery process.Your answers to the questions today will be different from your questions nextmonth, 3 months, 1 year, 3 years down the road. Add it to your weekly review sessions. This is an important article for your growth journey.
記住，沒有最終答案。這是一個(gè)不斷發(fā)現(xiàn)的過程。你現(xiàn)在的回答會(huì)和下個(gè)月、三個(gè)月后、一年后、三年后的答案截然不同。把它加到你周回顧的清單上。這篇文章對(duì)你的成長(zhǎng)旅程非常重要。
Here they are:
這些問題是：
1.Who are you?
1.你是誰？
2.What are youpassionate about?
2.你對(duì)什么充滿激情？
3.What are theachievements you are most proud of?
3.你最自豪的成就是什么？
4.What are you most grateful for in life?
4.生活中最值得感恩的事情是什么？
5.What are the mostimportant things to you in life?
5.對(duì)你來說生活中最重要的事情是什么？
6.How would youdescribe yourself?
6.你會(huì)如何描述自我？
7.What are yourvalues? What do you represent? What do you want to embody? (On Day 9 of Live a Better Life in 30 Days, we work together to discover your values.)
7.你的價(jià)值觀是什么？你身上有哪些？你想體現(xiàn)哪些？（在30天內(nèi)過更好的生活這項(xiàng)活動(dòng)的第9天，我們一起討論你的價(jià)值觀。）
8. Do you loveyourself?
8.你愛自己?jiǎn)幔?/u>
9.… Why or Why not?
9.為什么愛？或?yàn)槭裁床粣郏?/u>
10.How can you loveyourself more today?
10.今天怎么能更好的愛自己?
11.What is your idealself? What does it mean to be your highest self?
11.你理想中的自我是什么樣子？你最高的自我是什么樣子？
Look at your lifenow. Are you living the life of your dreams?
12.現(xiàn)在審查一下你的生活。你是活在你夢(mèng)想的生活中嗎？
13.If you have oneyear left to live,what would you do?
13.如果你還剩下一年的時(shí)光，你會(huì)做什么？
14.If you have onemonth left to live, what would you do?
14. 如果你還剩下一個(gè)月的時(shí)光，你會(huì)做什么？
15.If you have oneweek left to live, what would you do?
15. 如果你還剩下一周的時(shí)光，你會(huì)做什么？
16.If you have oneday left to live, what would you do?
16. 如果你還剩下一天的時(shí)光，你會(huì)做什么？
17.If you have anhour left to live, what would you do?
17.如果你還能活一小時(shí)，你會(huì)做什么？
18.If you have oneminute left to live, what would you do?
18.如果你還只能活一分鐘，你會(huì)做什么？
19.What would you dotoday if there is no more tomorrow?
19.如果沒有明天，你會(huì)做什么？
20.What are thebiggest things you’ve learned in life to date?
20.到現(xiàn)在為止你從生活中學(xué)到的最重要的事情是什么？
21.What advice wouldyou give to yourself 3 years ago?
21．你會(huì)給3年前的自己提出什么建議？
22.If you areyourself 1 year from the future, how would you advise the you now? (On Day 22of 30DLBL, we travel to the future to give advice to the us today.)
22.一年后的你會(huì)給現(xiàn)在的自己提出什么建議？（在30DLBL的活動(dòng)的第22天，我們會(huì)遨游到未來，給現(xiàn)在的自己提出建議。）
23.Is there somethingyou’re still holding on to? Is it time to let it go?
23.還有放不開手的事情嗎？是不是該放手了？
24.What are you busywith today? Will this matter 1 year from now? 3 years? 5 years?
24.你今天忙些什么？一年后這件事還重要嗎？3年后呢？5年后呢？
25.What are your Quadrant 2 tasks?
25.你的第二象限的任務(wù)是什么？（即重要的但不緊急的任務(wù)）
26.What opportunitiesare you looking for?
26.你在尋找哪些機(jī)遇？
27.How can you createthese opportunities?
27.你會(huì)如何創(chuàng)造這些機(jī)遇？
28. What are your biggest goals and dreams?
28.你最重要的目標(biāo)和夢(mèng)想是什么？
29. What’s stoppingyou from pursuing them? …Why? How can you overcome them?
29.是什么阻止了你對(duì)它們的追求？為什么？你該如何克服它們？
30.If you are to dosomething for free for the rest of your life, what would you want to do?
30.如果你想為你的余生無償?shù)淖鲂┦虑?，你?huì)做什么？
31.What would you doif you cannot fail; if there are no limitations in money, resources, time ornetworks?
31.如果你不能放棄，并且沒有金錢、資源、時(shí)間、網(wǎng)絡(luò)的限制，你會(huì)做什么？
32.What do you wantto achieve 1 year from now?
32.一年后你想達(dá)到什么目標(biāo)？
33.… 3 years?
33.三年后你想達(dá)到什么目標(biāo)？
34.… 5 years?
34.五年后你想達(dá)到什么目標(biāo)？
35.… 10 years?
35.十年后你想達(dá)到什么目標(biāo)？
36.How important arethese goals to you?
36．這些目標(biāo)對(duì)你有多么重要？
37.What if thesegoals are doubled? Tripled? Magnified by 10? How would you feel? Would youprefer to achieve these or your previous goals?
37.如果把這些目標(biāo)乘以2呢？乘以3呢？乘以10呢？你會(huì)感覺如何？你想實(shí)現(xiàn)這些乘過數(shù)之后的目標(biāo)呢還是之前的目標(biāo)？
38.Who are the peoplewho have achieved similar goals? … What can you learn from them?
38.誰實(shí)現(xiàn)了和你相似的目標(biāo)？…你可以從他們學(xué)到什么？
39.Are you putting any parts of your life on hold? … Why?
39.你抓住了生活中的某些部分了嗎？……為什么？
40.What’s the top priority in your life right now?
40.現(xiàn)在你生活中最重要的事情是什么？
41.What are you doingabout it?
41.你為這件事做了些什么？
42.If you were to dietomorrow, what would be your biggest regret? What can you do now to make surethat doesn’t happen?
42.如果你明天就要離開世界，你最大的遺憾是什么？你現(xiàn)在怎么做才能阻止它？
43.For everyexperience you get: What are the biggest things you have learned?
43.對(duì)于每一次經(jīng)歷：你從中學(xué)到的最重要的事情是什么？
44.How can you dothis better the next time?
44.下次你怎么做會(huì)做得更好？
45.If you had 1million dollars, what would you do with it?
45.如果你有一百萬，你會(huì)做什么？
46.Do you love yourjob?
46.你喜歡你的工作嗎？
47.What is your idealcareer?
47.你理想的職業(yè)是什么？
48.How can you startcreating your ideal career starting today?
48．從今天開始，你怎么做才能開始進(jìn)入你理想的職業(yè)？
49.What is your ideal diet?
49.你理想的飲食是什么？
50.What do you needto do to achieve your ideal diet?
50.要想達(dá)到理想的飲食，你需要做什么？
51.What is your idealhome like?
51.你心目中的家是什么樣子？
52.What do you needto do to achieve your ideal home?
52.要實(shí)現(xiàn)理想家園，你需要做什么？
53.What is your ideal physical look?
53.你理想的外觀是什么樣子？
54.What do you needto do to achieve your ideal physical look?
54.要想達(dá)到你理想中的外觀，你需要做什么？
55.What is your ideallife?
55.什么是你理想中的生活？
56.What can you do tostart living your ideal life?
56.你需要做什么才能開始過上理想中的生活？
57.What would youwant to say to yourself 1 year in the future?
57.你想對(duì)1年后的自己說些什么？
58.… 3 years?
58. 你想對(duì)3年后的自己說些什么？
59.… 5 years?
59. 你想對(duì)5年后的自己說些什么？
60.… 10 years?
60. 你想對(duì)10年后的自己說些什么？
61.What do you fear most in life?
61.你在生活中最害怕什么？
62.Is there anything you are running away from?
62.你有沒有逃避一些事情？
63.Are you settlingfor less than what you are worth? … Why?
63.如果你的價(jià)值沒有體現(xiàn)出來，你會(huì)滿足嗎？為什么？
64. What is your inner dialoguelike?
64.你的自我對(duì)話是什么樣子？
65.What limitingbeliefs are you holding on to?
65.你所堅(jiān)持的局限性的信念是什么？
66.Are they helpingyou achieve your goals?
66.這些信念在幫你實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)嗎？
67.If not, is it timeto let them go?
67.如果沒有，是不是該放手了？
68.What empoweringbeliefs can you take on to help you achieve your goals?
68.什么影響性的信念能幫你實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)？
69.What bad habits doyou want to break?
69.你想改掉哪些壞習(xí)慣？
70.What good habits do you want to cultivate?
70.你想養(yǎng)成哪些好習(xí)慣？
71.What are the biggestactions you can take now to create the biggest results in your life?
71.在你的生活中，要想創(chuàng)造最好的結(jié)果你需要采取哪些重要的行動(dòng)？
72.Where are youliving right now – the past, future or present?
72.你現(xiàn)在活在哪里？--過去，未來，還是現(xiàn)在？
73.Are you livingyour life to the fullest right now?
73.你現(xiàn)在是全心全意生活嗎？
74.What is themeaning of life?
74.生活的意義是什么？
75.What is your purpose in life? Why do you exist? What is your mission?
75.你生命中的目標(biāo)是什么？你為什么而存在？你的使命是什么？
76.How can you makeyour life more meaningful, starting today?
76.從現(xiàn)在開始，怎么樣能讓你的生活更有意義？
77.What drives you?
77.什么能驅(qū)動(dòng)你？
78.What are the timesyou are most inspired, most motivated, most charged up?
78.你什么時(shí)候最有靈感，最受鼓舞，最有能量？
79.What did you doduring those times? How can you do more of that starting today?
79．當(dāng)你最有靈感、最受鼓舞、最有能量你做了些什么？從今天開始你怎樣做才能有更多的這樣的時(shí)刻？
80.How can you changesomeone’s life for the better today?
80. 今天你怎么做才能讓別人的生活過得更好？
81.Who are the 5 people you spend the most time with?
81.哪五個(gè)人是和你在一起時(shí)間最多的人？
82.Are these peopleenabling you or holding you back?
82.這些人幫你前進(jìn)還是讓你后退？
83.What qualities doyou want to embody? (Refer to Q7: Values and Q11: Ideal Self) Where can you meet people who embody these qualities?
83.你想體現(xiàn)出哪些品質(zhì)？（參照第7個(gè)問題：價(jià)值觀和第11個(gè)問題：自我理想）你在哪里可以遇到體現(xiàn)這些品質(zhì)的人？
84. Who inspire youthe most?
84.誰最能鼓勵(lì)你？
85.How can you belike them?
85.你怎樣能像他們一樣？
86.What is your ideallife partner like?
86.你理想的伴侶是什么樣子？
87.Where can you findhim/her?
87.你從哪里可以找到他/她？
88.How can you get toknow him/her?
88.你如何能認(rèn)識(shí)他/她？
89.Are you afraid of letting others get close to you?
89.你害怕讓別人靠近你嗎？
90.… Why?
90.為什么你害怕讓別人靠近你？
91.Who is/are themost important person(s) to you in the world?
91.在世界上誰對(duì)你來說最重要？
92.Are you givingthem the attention you want to give?
92.你有沒有像想象中的那樣去關(guān)心他們？
93.How can you spendmore time with them starting today?
93.從今天開始你如何能和他們度過更多的時(shí)光？
94.What kind ofperson do you enjoy spending time with?
94.你喜歡和什么類型的人一起消磨時(shí)光？
95.How can you bethis person to others?
95.你怎樣做才能讓大家喜歡和你一起消磨時(shí)光？
96.Who do you want tobe like in 1 year?
96.一年內(nèi)你想變成像誰一樣的人？
97.… 3 years?
97.三年內(nèi)你想變成像誰一樣的人？
98.… 5 years?
98.五年內(nèi)你想變成像誰一樣的人？
99.… 10 years?
99. 十年內(nèi)你想變成像誰一樣的人？
100.Who are yourmentors in life? (formal or informal)
100.誰是你生活中的導(dǎo)師？（正式或非正式的）
101.What is one thingyou’re going to do differently after reading this article?
101.看完這篇文章，你最想改變的是什么事情？
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